50.4 F
Sunday, June 16, 2024
HomeCommentary"Dying: A Memoir" offers honest reflections on end of life

“Dying: A Memoir” offers honest reflections on end of life


Related stories

Life lessons from the man who let me braid his hair: A Father’s Day tribute

Step back in time with Rebecca Cooney as she reminisces about the special bond she shares with her father in this Father's Day Tribute.

How reciting the Pledge of Allegiance became a sacred, patriotic ritual

Delve into the rich history and traditions of flag day and the pledge of allegiance and their roles in American history.

How I navigated the rhetoric and realities of climate change through a spiritual lens

Learn about the 20-year scientific foundation of climate change and the author's spiritual understanding on how to raise awareness and take action against this global challenge.

Is God a freethinker?

Debating the compatibility of free thinking and religious belief. Is it possible to believe in God and still be a free thinker?

How to protect our votes in the upcoming election

Get insights into the upcoming presidential election and how to protect one's vote from an evangelical Christian's perspective.

Our Sponsors


By Bill Williams

[box type=”info” align=”” class=”” width=””]Dying: a memoir By Cory Taylor 141 pp. $18.95 TinHouse Books, 2017 [/box]

Australian author Cory Taylor was diagnosed with incurable melanoma at age 50. As her health worsened over the next decade, she wrestled with the inevitable – her impending death.

In “Dying: a memoir,” she delivers a moving reflection on the end of life. On the first page, we learn that she bought a euthanasia drug online from China.

“What could be easier than to swallow a fatal dose and never wake up again? Surely that would be preferable to the alternative, which is a lingering and gruesome demise.”

Suicide is legal in Australia, although assisted suicide is prohibited. After struggling with guilt about planning to kill herself and thereby abandoning her husband and their children, she decided simply to let nature take its course.

She says that none of her doctors ever raised the subject of death, “a fact I still find mystifying.” Taylor had no religious background, nor did not believe in an afterlife. She asked her mother to pray for her “since I didn’t know how to pray for myself.”

From age 15 her top goal was to become a writer. She wrote plays, poetry, children’s books and fiction. “I don’t know where I would be if I couldn’t do this strange work. It has saved my life many times over the years, and it continues to do so now.”

She had no bucket list, but she enjoyed travel and developed a special love for Japan, which she visited often.

“I went through most of my life believing that death was something that happened to other people. In my deluded state, I imagined I had unlimited time to play with, so I took a fairly leisurely approach to life and didn’t really push myself.”

She was not unhappy or depressed, but occasionally angry. “Why me?” “Why now?” She admits wasting a lot of time feeling singled out or cheated.

“Dying” is notable for its clear, concise prose. Much of it relates to Taylor’s fractured family. She was estranged from her father, an airline pilot who was happy only when he was flying. Her parents divorced years ago.

Prior to her cancer diagnosis, Taylor had never faced serious illness. “Now suddenly I was face to face with my own mortality,” she writes. “There was a moment when I saw my body in the mirror as if for the first time. Overnight my own flesh had become alien to me, the saboteur of all my hopes and dreams.”

“I can’t die,” she sobbed. “Not me. Not now.”

An editor’s note says Taylor wrote this book in just a few weeks before she died last year at age 61 of melanoma-related brain cancer, a significant accomplishment for any writer, never mind one on the verge of death.

This is not a depressing book. Rather, it is an honest, searching account of one writer’s coming to terms with her own mortality. Yet she reveals little about her physical demise. Was it “a lingering and gruesome demise,” as she had feared? She does not say.

“I’ve come to the edge of words now, to the place where they falter and strain in the face of dying’s terrifying finality,” she writes on the last page.

The book ends with these words, “Fade to black.”

Bill Williams
Bill Williams
Bill Williams is a freelance writer in Connecticut, and a former editorial writer for The Hartford Courant. He is a member of the National Book Critics Circle. He hosts the Greater Hartford Sangha, a local meditation group. He can be reached at [email protected].

Our Sponsors



0 0 votes
Article Rating
Notify of
1 Comment
Newest Most Voted
Inline Feedbacks
View all comments
Tom Schmidt
Tom Schmidt
6 years ago

Facing my own death, with bone cancer, which is inactive right now, with lab results in the normal range, dying is for me a very interesting topic. I find my view of the world and relationships has become much more calm. As in, Oh well that’s fucked up, now what else. I’m more active, wanting to have solved all those irritating injustices of the past before I can’t. But I can’t. I can only continue to work on them, like whittling a giant redwood tree. Oh well. At least I now know I’m not alone, and everyone else can join me or work their own program, their pick, not mine. I find I get testy only with those who won’t look at the injustices. Get out of my way, please. No time for avoidance. Life is too much fun for that.
That’s it!!!! Facing death, I find life is fun. Each breath is a joy. Even every pain. The creation has become goldenly good. No sin. No god who punishes or prohibits my seeking any knowledge. I love apples, and don’t have time for anyone’s conception of a god or spirit who tries to limit my experience beyond my natural animal limits. I have two legs and no wings, and any industrial compensations for my limits have to be carefully considered. Too often those compensations cause more limits, more degradation of the environment, more oppression.
What a laugh! I’ll probably live another ten or fifteen years. And that’s OK, too.

Would love your thoughts, please comment.x